“CALLED BY GOD TO GIVE SOME
ASSISTANCE TO OTHERS”
“Every so often we are called by ‘God’ to give some service or assistance to others.
“It is of course our freewill whether we chose to rise to that challenge or not.
“Not everybody is up to the task and many try and indeed fail, because they lack the self discipline or expertise to follow it right through to its full conclusion.
“For those of us who do rise to the challenge, our rewards in Heaven (Spirit World) and on this Earth are great indeed.
“Every precious ounce or effort is documented and counted as much credit towards that individual’s soul.
“That person’s hardship on this Earth is substantially lessened and they genuinely will feel those rewards.
“It sometimes takes great courage to maybe speak out for an injustice that has occurred when the vast majority cannot see it or don’t want to see it, simply because it does not sit right with their belief system.
“Everyone knows instinctively what is right and what is wrong and to rise to help a person in great need is so often extremely commendable.
“Just recently a young man died at the hands of some young people, a truly horrific death. Yet the mother of one of the aggressors of that murder spoke out and now all face jail sentences.
“Without her speaking up we would never have known how long it would have taken the police to get the perpetrators.
“Her courage is one that should be commended. She spoke out, raised herself up and, as a call of duty by the Almighty, delivered the right act.
“This lady will be rewarded for rising to the occasion, for doing the right thing and seeing the matter through to its rightful conclusion.
“That saying, “Many are called, but few are chosen” can be seen in many different ways throughout our lives today. Common courtesies towards our fellow man is largely now ignored in today’s society.
“Doing neighbourly things, giving up our seat on a bus or train to an elderly person – giving way for an oncoming car down a narrow road instead of pushing our way forwards first.
“For every good deed in thought, word or action, no matter how small, is always noticed by ‘God’ and reward to that individual is always returned in a much better way.
“No one is ever the looser who puts his faith and love in ‘God’ and always tries to do the honourable thing. To the individual who has benefited by that loving act it tends to stay with them for a very long time.
“Of course the greater that act of kindness to that individual, the more memorable it is to them. They simply never forget that person’s or persons’ kindness and it acts as a support system to their very souls.
“That is true service and when assistance is given in love gratitude is there for all time.
“Mustafa”.
31st May 2009
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“CHRISTMAS CHEER”
“Now as this year draws to a close we can all reflect on happening both old and new, to look within and see that we have all achieved in one way or another.
“We have managed to bring a smile and a cheer to those who need it most.
“A good will, a passing loving glance, which says it all, “I love you. I really care.”
“Precious moments that we have all shared together bring in lasting appreciation to one another. This special time of reflection knowing all was actually worth it.
“Nothing was missed, our intentions honourable and sincere, having mastered our lives and knowing that with each coming New Year we are much stronger for it.
“The happiness and love of Spirit knows no bounds. We notice each teardrop and every peel of laughter as we also laugh with you. Our merriment is your merriment ringing in your ears.
“Now is the time for rejoicing with the angels on High, who gather around bringing you that special peace and joy.
“Much laughter in the Heavens to bring you so much goodwill, promises of new beginnings, new challenges and certainly new conquests.
“Dreams coming true and new belief that we are all getting there at our pace, which is always fast enough.
So be bright and be of good cheer. We grow another year. Your lives most uncertain, but always protected as we embrace and take you from this year into the next.
“God bless you all, Mustafa.”
8th December 2008
“THE GENESIS AFFAIR”
“When the Big Bang occurred hundreds of millions of energy cells were manufactured all having their individual but vital roles to play in the manufacturing of energy molecules, which eventually made up the Universe as it is today since the molecular structure was formed and grew from almost nothing to greater objects.
“The molecules gravitated towards each other like a magnet where positive and negative poles existed. They came together and were able to cling on, so from little, or should I say next to nothing, forms or particles of cells come together and so gently, gradually grew together as they increasingly were pulled together into the most ordered state or phase, just like microwaves, they are there in an ordered form, but you can’t see them.
“So these many particles that made up an ordered system and behaved as a whole, the particles become the whole and are no longer single molecular atoms.
“In order for these molecules to be able to gravitate together so that they could become a whole, there had to be an intelligence behind it all, orchestrating it so that, at the exact right time, everything vibrated together as one.
“Out of this process, so structure was formed, living cells were formed and they grew because they resonated together. So a light form was successfully achieved and through light, heat was manufactured and when cooled then moisture was formed and over millions of years, life as we know it, was produced.
“It took the Universal Intelligence to bring out of chaos/explosion a so called order, which was established in the Universe. Nothing was ever random. “All became an infinite practise, without it none of us would be here today.”
“Mustafa.”
22nd July 2009
“THE INNOCENT SUFFER FIRST”
“It is with much sadness to see so many people loose their jobs. The innocent as always suffer first for the guilty’s actions – their plight ever growing.
“Now as events start to decrease on a very great level, those who’s jobs were lost who are innocently had no choice, will one by one be rescued and provided for.
“Jobs will be started up and many will have to make different provisions for themselves and their families.
“It will be a great turning point in their lives and together will emerge the stronger as a united front. All will have to act together for the greater good of the family.
“No one child or adult can expect ‘to have’ any longer. They must all learn to cut their cloth according to their needs.
“A new way to live where all now start to learn to pull together as never before and to make do with what they already have and to appreciate each others role in the family unit.
“Possessions now not being the case, but to realise that they can and must make do with what they have already.
“So a healthier respect for their possessions starts to take on a life that they never even thought about before. Everyone will have to contribute in their own way towards the family as never before.
“Jobs in this country will be formed again. Many will have to be retrained and many will have to see alternative jobs to what they have been used to and not to expect to remain in that same position as before.
“Everybody will need to start to see another way of working and living and so to so many it will seem strange at first, but it will overall be the makings of so many.
“So the innocent will be saved one by one. As to those who were guilty in bringing down these companies, their fate will not turn so easily as they will have to experience by their own hand the foolishness of their actions.
“They have to finally realise the pain and suffering that they have brought to bear on the innocent was either directly or indirectly their doing and not taking the appropriate action, they were complicit in the downfall of so many.
“So their plight will be even greater as they will be in the wilderness of life for some time to come until they fully realise and admit they got it wrong.
“No one will be exempt. No one will get away with it until they alone have learnt their bitter lesson.
“Where eventual remorse is shown, then slowly the way back is given to them and openings in a modest way will occur.
“By then they will fully realise the extreme hardships they have helped to create and brought to bear on so many, as they first hand will suffer the greater for it.
“‘God’ knows all and acts according to ‘His’ Laws, which are always perfect.
“God bless, Mustafa.”
15th February 2009
“IT’S NOT OVER YET”
“The Credit Crunch is far from over. There will be a new wave of despair and there will be large institutions that still need to fall.
“Everybody must now begin to see where the wayward management by those in this Government are directly responsible for the plight of so many.
“By subsequently taking their eye off the ball so to speak, situations have been left to their own devices under no element of control and so through mismanagement decay on so many fronts has occurred.
“The responsibility, or should we say misresponsibility, of this Government to properly govern and put matters into place to sort out what was right has not been met and never will be.
“Their sheer incompetence on every aspect led by a tyrant whose only role is for self glorification, has put this country in vital jeopardy.
“Everywhere there is chaos and confusion. No one is safe. Jobs are lost daily. The destruction to people’s lives is devastating and does this Government even care?
“Until this country is on its knees and we are almost there, will the people then stand up and demand a no confidence in this Government?
“Again it must be the Voice of the People to march and demand a change in Government, not to pitifully wait until their term of office is almost over.
“How much pain must the people of this country endure?
“What does it take to finally wake up the people of this country to take action and then a turn around of events can come about.
“It is painfully obvious that the people of this country are not yet hurting enough. The outrage is not fully there yet.
“When it does happen, as more pain comes in daily to the poor people of this country, then the collective view of the people to demand justice will take place.
“It is your lives at the end of the day.
“The responsibility of all this destruction to this country lies squarely with this Government as history will in time show.
“Act now so that change and much vital help can come in. Salvation is there for all who are right and just.
“Those that are not must fall and then through new enlightenment will discover themselves and start again.
“You, the people of this country, have a right to live.
“Take back your power and start to change matters for every man, woman and child and begin to see a turn for the good occur to this country and for it finally to be saved.
“God bless, Mustafa.”
25th October 2009
“MAN NEEDS TO CONSIDER VERY CAREFULLY
HIS/HER OPTIONS”
“In this world of matter, where Man’s only criterion appears to be to covet wealth at the so called possible expense of his soul, one should think very carefully.
“As spirit beings created by ‘God’ in ‘His’ image, which is spiritual intellect and a knowing of certain things that the soul itself recognises to be true naturally, we are in danger of losing this oneness as our lives are continually being bombarded with the wanting of material pleasure.
“It is not that we can’t have it, but when it becomes the point of focus why we are here to constantly gain more and more almost obsessively then it becomes a problem.
“Society teaches us that wealth and position is all important, no matter what the personal cost to us or to those around us.
“The more we have the more problems are presented to us as other issues then come in as to how to hold on to it and safeguard our precious hoard.
“We start to live in fear. Will it be taken from us? Will we lose it and so our focus on life takes on another worry.
“All is no longer harmonious. We expect so much of ourselves all the time, the constant striding forwards, the constant fretting, what if?
“I ask you to reconsider your lives and to make it simple. Discard all those belongings that are of no use to you. Leave that burden of too many possessions and begin to see what is truly important in your life.
“People, family those loved ones to invest in their wellbeing, will reap its own rewards. These are the truly precious things that life has to offer.
“Family and those who are dear to us will return that genuine love and so a complete support system is achieved from every angle and becomes a lifetime’s investment growing stronger all the time.
“For those humans, who do not invest in their fellow man, perhaps through psychological reasons of fear and hate, their lives will be pitiful and they will have little or no comfort within their own lives.
“‘God’ tries to get through and they are adamant in turning themselves away from ‘His’ goodness.
“They find that they cannot understand ‘His’ love which appears foreign to them. They are lost souls until it is their time to pass, then the reawakening to them becomes possible.
“So many people on this World are not in tune with the spiritual and so when disaster occurs for them the pain is greater and the sacrifice to them harder to bear.
“We must learn to be able to lose everything, so that we can become free in our living and in our thinking and it is only then can we be truly saved.
“All those who have lost either someone or something really appreciate what they have and with ‘God’s help are able every time to start a new.
“It is this new life which has life changing consequences, which allows us to grow emotionally and of the Spirit into a spiritual being that reaches even closer to ‘God’.
“So it is perfectly alright to have wealth, but what is important is how we use it – to use it sensibly with responsibility and purpose, so more is obtained.
“It is in the giving to others, so more is given to you in ways you never thought possible before. ‘God’s rewards always come in at the precise time when it is needed most and where much joy and appreciation is acknowledged.
“Take these gifts that are given by love and in turn also pass them on and so a complete cycle of love continues. It is never ending.
“Experience what seems the impossible. Learn to grow through it and closer to ‘God’ you will become.
“All things are possible in ‘God’s world. Enter in. The door is always open. Ask and the way is shown to you, always when the time is ready.
“Turn away from the greed and be accepting of what is freely given because by your spiritual mindset you are at one with the Creator, one doesn’t need to want, want and acquire for acquiring sake.
“It comes to you in such a way that ‘God’s gifts are truly astonishing and always make sense.
“Man just needs to open himself out to become receptive of ‘God’s power that is all around us and this in itself makes us feel safe and fear of uncertainty is finally removed forever.”
“Mustafa.”
27th November 2009
“WAKE UP CALL”
“This is your wonderful wake up call.
“Don’t let the winter blues get you down through lack of sunshine or even the negativity of World events.
“It is what is happening to you right now that is important and nothing else.
“There all around us is a shifting of energy and consciousness. You are a big part of that shift in thinking. Your role is vital for this wonderful World of ours to change for the better.
“No, you are not a tiny part of it, but a huge part. Your thoughts, actions and aspirations are now lifting global energies and collectively are at last able to make huge strides.
“Nowhere on Earth is there a right time as now. What you are thinking only in a positive way, no matter how small, will help to destroy the global negativity.
“The power lies in your hands and it is now that you can actually make a difference.
“A global realisation begins to believe that radical turnabouts can and do occur and for you to begin to see these changes for yourself can actually happen.
“Everywhere in the World thoughts, prayers went out to America to stop that gross negative thinking so that changes can come to the people.
“Because it was asked and prayed for and as that collective vibration began to grow against all the odds, and grow it did globally, so a very significant result was achieved.
“So now in other countries around the World where people from all walks of life, colour, creed and religion begin to think collectively, then changes will and do happen.
“Peace can come to the Middle East. Peace can also come into your homes if you wish and pray for it enough.
“Now that wake up call to bring about a global revolution is actually taking place. People are on the move with their own thoughts and wish to see an end to all conflict.
“So one by one conflict is starting to recede and a better way is found now for a new resolution – a lasting and peaceful one can be found.
“So your part as an individual is crucial, is powerful, and gradually you will see a movement, a shift in policy start to turn all over the World.
“So think, believe. Send out your prayers so that stability and change can on a satisfactory basis be achieved.
“Do not let your thoughts turn to the negative as you collectively will not alter matters, but will in fact maintain the status quo.
“Turn your thoughts always to the positive and see changes happen dramatically in your life and in your neighbours and also in the World.
“Wake up to the wake up call. See the very positive results appear from nowhere, out of the blue and feel very strongly your thoughts helped to make that happen.
“Thank you, Mustafa.”
10th January 2009
“MAYAN CALENDAR and 2012”
“You must be joking. This World hopefully by then will be set on a path of some type of righteous living and working.
“All those who were selfish in one way or another will already have received their comeuppance and another wave of spiritual enlightenment, like a wave form, will start to further oust all small growths of unrest.
“Those people who have bought boats or even dwellings that will float at their so called appointed time, when the sea waters will rise and the land lost, will be so very disappointed.
“Yes, the flood waters will rise, but equally there will be enormous droughts and much famine of which this Globe had not experienced for centuries.
“Until Man is aware that food is not in unlimited supply overall and where destruction to land and livestock occurs, so the delicate balance of nature then falls down.
“Crops are not able to mature and in some cases are not able even to take root. The Earth does not have an inexhaustible supply of food. It is all starting to run out.
“Crops are indeed affected and the current climate, both economical and environmental, has brought about these collapses.
So the World will not end in 2012, but there will be a vast reawakening to Mankind that they must put precious resources to work and that they take precedence over profit every time.
“Profit to Man is of no use if that person is starving. A luxury house is of no use if you are dying of thirst and there is no longer water to drink.
“The World can only supply so much and until Mankind comes to his senses then more will have to suffer until the necessary adjustment is put into action.
“So the World will not blow up and cease to exist. It will however be on a path to get matters of enormous necessity for the sustaining of human life back into balance, whereby new ways to produce food and water are realised and a new beginning starts to evolve.
“It will only be a start, but in itself that is something.”
“God bless, Mustafa.”
9th September 2009
“THE POWER OF LOVE AND NOT GREED”
“Now as this country faces its greatest challenge and you the people still are not aware of what is actually coming.
“Your little worlds to turn upside down so dramatically and you will wonder what actually happened.
“All those whose lives have not been conducted in the proper way will see themselves fall and with much uncertainty around them.
“They will have to witness the true impact to them and will not know what hit them.
“All those who conducted their lives in the correct fashion will be buoyant from the onslaught and, like the time of the Passover, those who have done wrong will be set down and those who have not will be saved.
“There is no middle way.
“Your lives will reflect what ‘God’ already knows and you cannot escape this judgement.
“See your wealth halved and remain so until you start to realise it is not there to accrue, but to work with it for the betterment of mankind.
“All those who have true charity in their hearts and minds will see the true purpose of ‘God’s’ mission for them and their lives will be ever fruitful and productive.
“There is no chance to change now in midstream.
“‘God’ has already witnessed your lives and already knows of your thinking and as you have not changed in your life already, so ‘God’s’ will is now self evidential.
“Until Man realises that money is for sharing and not for accruing, all money is then lost to them.
“Only those with real charity in their hearts will see an ever growing flow of finance and help on every level, because their intentions were always honourable from the start and so they will remain in tact.
“See and witness your own demise.
“See and feel ‘God’s’ hand in your lives and start to learn about the Power of Love and not greed.
“God bless, Mustafa.”
15th March 2009
“ROSEMARY ALTEA AND GREY EAGLE”
“The guide Grey Eagle did know of these treacherous dealings going on between Rosemary Altea and her former assistant.
“Warnings were flagged up from time to time and proof was given. However Rosemary Altea, who sees the good only in everybody, chose to ignore these matters and so it continued.
“The life that Rosemary Altea lives is one where she is most hectic all the time and there were strong personal issues happening around her at that time.
“Therefore she was side tracked into dealing with those and so called took her eye off the ball and therefore was hit several times.
“She chose not to follow up discrepancies in her financial affairs so then the guide, Grey Eagle, had to then send out alarm bells so that she would see and follow it up and that is when this assistant was finally caught out.
“Grey Eagle set a foolproof trap for her and she fell head first into it and so Rosemary Altea was then able to deal with this situation and a justified punishment was then implemented and enforced.
“The assistant now will have a criminal record against her, whereby before she had managed to get away with it.
“The Spirit World gives everybody enough leeway in their lives to sort matters out.
“In the case of the assistant, to stop doing it and to do the right and honest thing – this proved too difficult for her to resist temptation
“In the final act she was caught and is being severely dealt with – her reputation quoshed for all time.
“Now, in the case of Rosemary Altea, she also was shown the signs, chose also to ignore them until it finally hit her hard that something major now had developed.
“She then had to wait, once the realisation had finally hit her, for ‘Us’ in Spirit to fix the trap and so the outcome could be sorted out once and for all.
“As you can see some of the money has been recovered whereby had she not finally realised she would have lost the lot.
“Everybody and I mean everybody, must learn to take on personal responsibility for our own lives and although ‘We’ as guides can alert you to various problems, in the end you must do your bit with ‘Our’ help of course.
“In Rosemary Altea’s case it will be a necessary wake up call not only to look at these financial matters, but where there are other discrepancies in her life where she will need to safeguard or even shut down and then reorganise her life.
“At times we become so bogged down with life in general, especially when you are in the fast lane of life that we can overlook situations and a form of abuse starts.
“So we must continue to look after ourselves and never can we afford to let anything go whether that is our finances, our health or our reasoning powers.
“All must be looked at in one form or another. None of us can afford to neglect anything in life and that goes for simply everything including relationships.
“Otherwise we will loose it.”
”Mustafa.”
25th June 2009
“TO MAKE THE MOST OUT OF THE LEAST”
“For those of us who feel we must spend a lot of money in order for us to have a good time is a commercial man’s dictate.
“For most of us it will be the little things that will mean the most. Those homemade cakes, those jellies we are so fond of. Our all time favourites are always best.
“That small convivial gathering with those only that we love and who love us is enough. It makes this time of year special indeed.
“Above all, to be content in the arms of a loved one is all that we ever need. It is the most satisfying of all.
“The make the most of the least can be fun, because we have taken the time and made the effort for those who we feel are special in our lives.
“Some people even make and decorate their own cards. This gives much pleasure to the person making it and also for the receiver. Why?
“Because it is special and unique. It is not mass produced and therefore means so much more.
“Children are especially talented in this way making little things of beauty at school to offer their mothers and fathers, even grandparents.
“It is a time for the giving and receiving of love, which is especially noticed at this time of the year. This of course costs nothing, but it can bring with it a permanent glow and it can transcend happiness over millions of miles.
“That long distant telephone call to loved ones abroad to hear that person’s voice. The email system, the technology of the day, is so practical, yet so impersonal.
“You can never sense the other person’s feelings whether it be of joy or pain, but that ’phone call can make all the difference.
“It is a statement, “I care for you especially at this time of the year and I want you to know that you are loved and not forgotten.”
“The expression of contact, whether by ’phone call or by personal invitation especially when one is alone and often lonely, can mean so much – a few minutes of your time given with love always has a lasting effect.
“We all need love in our lives. None of us can survive without it. It’s what makes us grow and gives us the confidence and the spirit to carry on in our lives and helps often to conquer our own fears and anxieties.
“This Christmas for many will be a most wonderful time of the year to share in mutual joy.
“For those who feel they are alone, even in a crowd, will also be loved and that warmth of God’s love will be enough to sustain them through this time of year and especially for those who have lost a loved one and it is hard for their family to let themselves be.
“That loss of a loved one must be talked about, the memory of that life remembered and to be reignited at this time of the year. They may be in another dimension, but they are still alive and wish to be remembered.
“Love at Christmas, when given generously, is a very powerful product and can change peoples’ lives always for the better and it costs nothing yet means so much.
“God bless, Mustafa.”
19th December 2009
“TREATMENT OF MENTAL STRESS THE HOLISTIC WAY”
“It has become quite noticeable that during this harsh economic and unsettled times that an increase of stress to the human mind has come about.
“Many people for all sorts of reasons are experiencing great fluctuations in their routine of life and are suffering in various ways.
“When the mind becomes so unsettled, the body follows suit with various aches and pains and disabilities where before there was none.
“People are now turning no longer to the doctor, who only can dish out antidepressants in the hope it will get their patients over the hump.
“The doctors never look to the deep underlying issues, which are the real causes of so much unrest, preferring to temporally with antidepressants to block it out, making people go around like zombies.
“The public are not stupid and generally realise that something more is required other than being doped up for months on end.
“They are starting to take decisions into their own hands and where the doctors often fail them, they are now looking for alternative practices where relief and a greater understanding of their particular problems are found and yes – actually successfully treated.
“I have noticed that people want to get better and, what is more important, to find out the root cause of their sufferings.
“Psychotherapy and Hypnosis has become invaluable to them in so many ways and after a few appointments begin to see a noticeable difference to their minds, whereby peace and understanding comes in and their minds and bodies actually become healed.
“It is the holistic approach, something that is common place in the Eastern World where they treat the whole body and mind as one and so a greater relief is obtained instead of what is currently on offer by our General Practitioners, which is to deal with the symptoms and not ever dealing with the real issues.
“Enquires and the treatment of patients is far more common for Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy than at any other time.
“It is the people themselves who are taking control of their lives, because they at least want to get well.
“The success to them is noticed not only by them, but by their families and close associates. They have finally got their lives back and are no longer afraid to admit to how they achieved this.
“One must remember that therapy is a mutual transaction for the benefit of the patient and, because of their participation in this quest, they always feel the benefit and are always pleased that they decided to go down that path.
“A happier outcome is achieved and life begins anew once more!”
23rd January 2010
“BEING CONTENT WITH LITTLE DOES MEAN MORE”
“As we await the changes to befall this country after the monetary mess we all have been placed in, remember our own responsibility in getting our own house in order.
“It is often easy to blame government for so many things, but each and every one of us must not lose sight of our own needs, which are completely different from our wants.
“So if you take care and remain positive in all things useful changes to your lifestyle can and do occur. We must never take it for granted that we have a job for life or that we are healthy for life.
“We cannot afford that laissez-
“Look to see what matters to you. Is it your life style or is it true happiness? Is it working all hours or is it peace of mind?
“Do we really need that new car or can we manage with what we have? Do we really need that large house with all its heating cost and upkeep or would we be content with something smaller?
“Peace of mind comes in when we fully realise what is important in our lives and how can we change it to make it better?
“The struggle need no longer be there. We make our own hardships. Begin to learn to let go and a new idea is given to you from that a new life can emerge with less hassle and pain.
“Being content with what you have and not extending yourself is a wonderful thing. To have so much means nothing, if it is not fully utilised in the right way. We all acquire much more than we actually need.
“It can be the smaller things in life that give the most pleasure. Being content with little really does mean more.
“God bless, Mustafa.”
12th February 2010
“START TO CONSIDER YOUR OWN NEEDS”
“How often have you heard the saying “I sacrificed everything for them and this is how they treat me!”
“The conditions of what we give and when we decide to give is not based on the criteria of thanks or gratitude, but because we decided to give it on the basis of unconditional love. Many of us expect some form of gratitude or appreciation and this is often missed.
“Our lives now are so programmed that it is expected to have or to receive and there is no need to do anything for it. How far removed have we all become in this world of materialism that pain is suffered now by the giver and it has taken the joy out of giving, because it is almost expected.
“Our families tend to be the worst in this scenario, because familiarity breeds contempt and this has become a failing for so long now that if we were to mention it, they, the family, would be incensed at our disapproval of them.
“I believe that we must begin to make a stand and to make it a conscious decision to give only when we feel it is right for that individual to have and not because they, as the family, expect it.
“This will over time bring in respect to the giver and a greater appreciation of what is given is demonstrated. So many of us have lost the vital values of considerations for a persons feelings of those who constantly give and are never appreciated, but is expected of them to give is always in the background.
“It is because they have continued to give over the decades of their life that the receivers still expects this of them. They never think that the giver has sacrificed sometimes immense hardship in order to provide and often at great detriment to themselves.
“So I urge you now, especially where there is great hardship borne to the giver, to now start to consider your own needs, because you do not have a bottomless pit and there must be enough funds left over for yourselves.
“It is imperative that one looks now to ones own interests and self survival and then, if there is sufficient funds left over and there poses no hardship to the giver, then they can continue to give only if they feel it is right to do so.
“We tend to feel it is expected and so we give and never even feel that we are considered in anyway and in this day and age that is so often the case.
“Today, where the economic situation is so dire especially with people on fixed incomes and where they have to account for every penny then, to expect anything from them should be realistically approached.
“Parents often give to their grown up children funds and support when they are left with next to nothing in their own account. In the end it is the role of the giver to speak out and to say that they are not able to give and should their situation change and if it is within their hearts, they will give again.
“This allows for a settling down period to transpire and the receivers then will be grateful perhaps for the first time in ages and an appreciation, not an expectation, becomes the norm.
“The giver must start to take personal responsibility not to allow expectation to be the order of the day. Then peace of mind is restored.
“God bless, Mustafa.”
9th March 2010